At the beginning of the school year, my 8th grade daughter had an assignment where she had to describe each person in her family with one adjective. She was telling me the words she used for each of her siblings and it was really fun. Then she told me that she chose the word "Perseverance" for me. Since I have never thought of that as one of my defining traits, I asked her why. She said it was because I kept starting new diets and new exercise plans. I didn't give up. I kept trying.
That flabbergasted me. I would tell you that my inability to stick to a healthy diet and exercise plan is one of my biggest failures in life. But through my daughter's eyes of grace she saw it as perseverance. Mom never gives up. She keeps trying.
I see my relationship with diet and exercise kind of like that Greek mythological guy who gets cursed to roll a large boulder up a mountain, and every time he almost reaches the top, the boulder rolls back down and he has to start all over again. I don't see this as a battle I am ever going to win. But at the same time, I'd rather spend my life pushing the boulder up the mountain, then sitting at the bottom and giving up. So I tell my kids, once again..Ok, nobody offer me chocolate or ice cream or anything that tastes great, cause I'm going off sugar again. Who wants to go walking in the park with me? I'm trying to walk every day…again. And the kids just nod and accept it. They've seen it before.
But apparently, while I thought I was modeling "how to fail repeatedly", at least one of them saw me modeling Perseverance instead.
I've had quite a few people tell me I should write a book. Maybe about parenting? And that sounds like a horrible idea to me. I've sat and thought about it before. What advice would I give newer parents? I can't come up with much. Love your kids. Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you. I feel like my parenting journey has been fully rooted in the verse, "My grace is sufficient for you.." I've made silly mistakes and I've made mistakes that have caused horrible damage. I have some deep regrets. But, God has been faithful. He has been kind enough to show us what we are doing wrong and given us the opportunity to ask forgiveness and repent and try to turn to a different path. He has been gracious to my children and put other people in their lives who have helped them overcome some of the wounds I have inevitably caused. And somehow he has allowed all of us to walk a path where all of my older children still like talking to me and spending time with me, even when they now have the freedom to choose otherwise. That is God's favor on our lives.
I would say that my parenting style has been a constant pattern of fail, repent, try again. I guess I could say our marriage is kind of like that too. In fact.. Maybe this is a pattern for life? Fail, repent, try again? And somehow God works through all of that and instead of calling it failure, he calls it perseverance. And he gives us grace to try again, and somehow takes all the messy debris from all our mistakes, and turns them into good. And while I hope that I will see some victories in this life, the good news is that, unlike the Greek guy who is cursed forever, I know that one day I will be with Jesus and all the battles will be over and I will be fully victorious. And until then, with the grace of God, I will persevere.
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