It is often seen that two hearts come close to one another, for no apparent reason! Then, they get ready to overcome any obstacles in order to protect their relationship. At times, the two persons apparently forget everything due to their eagerness to share their thoughts with each other. Even after experiencing a break-up, many fall in love again! A 21-year-old Indian girl has admitted that she fell in love thrice, but does not harbour any bitter experience. "All the three relationships broke up, but the days of togetherness were like a dream," said the girl. She has claimed that her belief in love still exists as she wants to fulfil her dream. According to the girl, love is a practice. Hence, one should not let it die, but try to save it.
It is hard to find a person who has not fallen in love at least once in her/his life. People meet different persons at various stages of life and fall in love with some of them. While some relations survive, others find their places in the subconscious mind as fragmented memories. Also, some relationships leave only bad experiences. Still, many find love, time and again, in various ways, as they want to move forward, leaving the past behind.
Anuttama Banerjee, an Indian psychologist, poet, author and public health advocate, is of the opinion that one comes to know of her/his parents after birth. Later, one often creates an urge to have a relationship of her/his own. This urge is determined by the age of the person. In other words, the urge to have a relationship changes its character in different stages of life. In case of love, this urge or feeling becomes quite strong. Then, a person feels that s/he gets closely connected with her/his partner in a special way! This is one aspect of love which may not always be the case. Many are in polyamorous relationships and they define relationships in different manners. According to Banerjee, the meaning of relationship, companionship or togetherness is different for different individuals. There are people who do not care about love. Perhaps, those people do not feel the need to get involved in a relationship. "The need for real love is constructed differently in each case," stressed the psychologist.
Everyone carries the essence of her/his love within her/himself, irrespective of age, space and time. One's heart tends to find its soulmate, no matter how deep the wound of past love. Love is not only an expression of emotions, but also a new experience! People fall in love to gain that experience. Habits, age and movies, too, have a huge impact on the mind. It seems that love is necessary at a certain age. Banerjee has stressed that different relationships, events centred on those relationships, thoughts and joys are the feelings which one should experience. The desire for love often comes from those feelings. However, all these happen at a young age. The internal reasons for falling in love can be found in an adult mind. There can be various reasons for falling in love and those are different for every individual.
One may fall in love multiple times in her/his lifetime for various reasons. Sometimes someone's beauty steals the heart or someone's special talents attract others or someone's manner of interaction wins others' heart. Although external, these are also reasons for falling in love. Papers of various researchers from different universities across the globe have claimed that one of the main reasons for falling in love is loneliness. Not everyone can enjoy solitude! Loneliness is dreaded by many. However, people of this mental make-up mostly love to team up with like-minded partners and can walk miles with their beloved ones! Emotions can be compared with a spark that often prompts a heart to surrender itself to love.
Again, some fall in love multiple times to cause a little trouble for themselves! One cannot be seen living in peace for a long time after falling in love, at times. In fact, some tend to enjoy this trouble. Instead of living in peace, they find happiness in sufferings. Love can also be considered as a blend of pride and emotional suffering. Love is incomplete without conflict, resentment and attachment.
Dr Ananya Bhowmik, an Indian Dietitian and Nutritionist, has opined that love has some health benefits, too! "When one is in love, 'happy hormones', like oxytocin, dopamine and endorphins, are released excessively. These hormones are released due to positive feelings. Therefore, immunity will increase, sleep will be better and metabolism rate will also increase. These hormones are released when we see someone we love," stated Dr Bhowmik.
It is quite clear that there cannot be a specific reason for falling in love multiple times. It is difficult to understand who will fall in love with whom and when. However, it is even more difficult to understand the real definition of love!
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