We live in a world surrounded by ableism that it is actually a huge problem that only disabled people see. Many abled people have a really hard time see ableism or even know what it is to prevent themselves from say something incredibly ableist. When you are disabled sometimes people will say things about your disability that are just rude and makes me wonder why people say them. Some people may not even realize that it's wrong but other people don't even care and will continue to hurt the disabled community. I have had my fair hurtful comments that were said to me because I am disabled which I usually ignore but some things you can never forget. In this post, I am going to talk about some comments that people have said to me because I am disabled that were rude and slightly upsetting and you should stop saying them immediately!

You should consider speech therapy- I have a speech delay and some words particularly ones with r's in them are very difficult for me to say and sometimes not understandable. I love it when people come up to me and say that my speech sounds horrible and that speech therapy obviously didn't work. If only you could have heard my speech has a kid you would know that it was much worse and I have come a long way. I have dyslexia and some words are difficult for me to say and it's fine if you don't understand something I have said but you don't have to be rude about it. Politely ask me to repeat it because I will gladly do so without hesitation when you're nice about it and won't be mad that you ask. I understand that sometimes some words don't come out well don't care if you ask me to repeat things but only mind when you're rude about it. I am already am self-conscious enough with how I speak and it only makes matters worse when you tell me how terrible I sound.

You are a failure if you drop out of school-  School has always been hard for me and I wanted to become an ASL interpreter but I couldn't get through the first basic math class because of my learning disability. I stayed up at all hours of the night and went to tutoring but nothing was enough to get a passing grade so eventually, I had to drop out. I made the mistake of telling some friends and the only thing they had to say about it was that I was lazy and a failure for not trying hard enough. If only you would have seen how much I studied you would know that it was from lack of effort that made it so I was unable to get a college degree. College isn't for everyone which is especially hard for people with learning disabilities because not all tutors understand you and more time to learn the material is not always an option in college. If you don't know why someone couldn't finish college don't comment because telling people they are a failure and will never be successful is wrong. It affects the ways someone feels about themselves and you can totally be successful without a degree and you just may have to work a little harder!

Your just lazy- I looked for a job for about ten years eventually gave up because of all the discrimination I was facing in job interviews. Disabled people have to prove their disabilities when we go to job interviews because a lot of people see our disability and think we are incapable. I went to a job and the interviewer asked me if my doctor's appointment were going to interfere with my work and I don't know if that' legal but I was still asked that regardless. I have had my fair share of rude ablelist comments when it comes to job search because people see that I have been looking for a job for so long and assume I am not trying or just lazy. That is not it all and the reason I was never able to find employment was because of employers thought I was incapable of doing the job I applied to do. I don't understand why they would always question that because it seems silly to apply to a position I couldn't do. Unemployment rates are higher when you are disabled than if you were abled so pleese don't tell disabled people that it's their fault they don't have a job because many employers won't even give us a chance.

When you are disabled people will say more rude things to you than they do to abled people and they just expect us to just put up with it and be on with our day. It's okay to be angry and yell at someone if they upset you because some people need to see that disabled people are human too and we do get mad. If you are bothered by something someone has said don't be afraid to call out on it because sometimes people need to be called out on their ableism. That is the only way your friends will do better because a lot of the time people don't even realize when they are doing something extremely hurtful towards the disabled community. For the most part, I ignore rudeness since it happens so often to disabled people that we can't escape it but if it's so wrong I try and educate becuase that is the only way people learn I just updated my website and if you have trouble reading posts are viewing at all please let me know and I will look into it . I won't be offended if you give me some type of critique because I want you to have the best experience possible! What rude things have people said to you because of your disability and how did you handle it?