[New post] Homeschool Help Podcast for Your (Real) Homeschool Mom Life
twainausten posted: " If you need help, homeschool mom, Season #5 of the Homeschool Mama Self-Care Podcast, is dedicated to you. This introductory episode explores how authorial influencers can help us show up authentically, confidently, and purposefully. The homeschool" Capturing the Charmed Life
If you need help, homeschool mom, Season #5 of the Homeschool Mama Self-Care Podcast, is dedicated to you.
This introductory episode explores how authorial influencers can help us show up authentically, confidently, and purposefully.
The homeschool help podcast for the homeschool mom is for moms who want to address the most important thing: themselves. Encouraging you to nurture the nurture, you.
Because who you are, how you frame your life, understand your purpose, and how you address your challenges, deeply influence your homeschool kids.
So Season #5 of the Homeschool Mama Self-Care Podcast will help you learn more about yourself!
In this episode, I introduce Season #5 of this homeschool help podcast for the homeschool mama.
As we anticipate the 2023 new year, we can reenvision our lives so we can align our intentions towards a more purposeful life AND even allow our griefs and losses to integrate to become more than we ever imagined we could be.
"The question is not how to survive, but how to thrive, with passion, compassion, humour and style."
Maya Angelou
I can't script the reality of your life, and the challenges you might face in your home or the world in 2023, but if I could, I wouldn't give you challenges.
Oh, I know, we learn from challenges, we are strengthened through challenges, and we are equipped to help others when we have our challenges.
This is what you'll hear on Season #5 of the Homeschool Mama Self-Care Podcast to help you authentically, confidently, and purposefully live your homeschool life......
How Internal Family Systems can Influence our Homeschools (how my relationship with me matters more than any other relationship)
Discuss Enneagram for the Homeschool Family (so I can understand each of my family members as their separate selves, and understand how I engage each of those relationships)
Amber O'Neill's Book, A Place to Belong (so we can build authentic community & connection)
When you're looking for a community of authentic women who want to work towards clarifying their homeschool challenges to enjoy their homeschools more, click here.
Self-Compassion for the Homeschool Mama...to instill strategies that help you nurture the nurturer, be kind with your big emotions & your kids' big emotions...
Is this you?
You don't know how to deal with your big emotions when your kiddo is having their big emotions (& you know you're making it worse in how you react...this was definitely me).
You can't point a finger on it, but there are too many things going on & everything feels "too much. (This is the experience of overwhelm, too many feels.)
You want to show up as your best self, rather than with your tried & true (but not useful) patterns. (And you've truly tried all the things, but nothing feels like it's getting to the heart of this.)
You understand that more is caught than taught in how you engage your kids, and that concerns you.
You don't feel supported to do this process with anyone else.
Imagine if...
You were practiced in the "pause" before you reacted to your child.
You knew for sure you were honouring your child as a separate person?
You had a plan to address your big emotions & knew how to be proactive and responsive, not reactive.
You felt like you were enough and could do this homeschool thing confidently.
You felt supported.
You were clear about when to include self-compassion strategies and how they'd benefit you.
You knew you were teaching your child self-compassion strategies, emotional regulation & healthy communication too.
Straight up, if someone had talked to me about self-compassion strategies, I would have thought, nope, too weird.
But then I spent years struggling to deal with my big emotions, I spent years not feeling good enough, and I was finally open to listening to something that might work.
On one particular homeschool day, I was especially frustrated.
What could have been frustrating me?
A child was being unkind, again.
Kids were fighting, again.
Nobody wanted to do the thing I had so lovingly planned for them.
The house was a mess.
I was feeling unsupported and disconnected from others.
Oh, ya know, a couple things might have been going on.
And I really wanted to text my husband.
But since he wasn't responding to his texts (he happens to work in emerg, so what he was doing was likely more emergent than his wife losing her stuff at home), I had to figure out what else to do!
Call my friend, I thought. Turns out, she was too busy to respond too.
Well, what is a homeschooled mama to do?
Head over to my bathroom mirror and talk to myself.
Weird, but effective.
I just needed someone to witness my frustration and sadness.
To look into my eyes and say, "Hey, you're having a moment, sometimes homeschooling is hard, but you've got this."
So that is what I did.
For me.
And to my utter surprise, it was therapeutic, it worked!
"With self-compassion, we give ourselves the same kindness and care we'd give to a good friend."
Kirstin Neff
I often share with homeschool mamas that if they're particularly heated with their kids, they should head to the bathroom mirror.
Stand in front of the mirror.
See that sad, exasperated, angry face?
What would you say that sad, exasperated, angry face if it were your friend?
You might say:
I'm sorry you're frustrated.
I care about you.
I've been there, done that. (Even maybe this morning).
You're a good mom; I see how you engage most of the time and you care about your kiddo.
What you wouldn't say is this:
You're a horrible mother.
You should never have had a child.
You're such a screw-up.
You will never learn how to parent with kindness/gentleness/self-control/you-fill-in-the-blank.
Nope, words you'd never utter to a friend.
So why are you doing that to yourself? (FYI we all speak more harshly to ourselves than we do to others.)
How do you want to speak to your friends?
Look back to your face in the mirror: speak to that "friend" in the mirror.
I came by this strategy on a day when I couldn't access my husband by text. And not my good friend either.
So, who else was I going to talk with? Myself. In the mirror.
And I have since discovered that is a useful, though odd, approach to calming myself down.
And when I'm calm? I can decide how to intentionally respond to my anger/anxiety/sadness/other intense emotion AND head back to my homeschooled kiddos and engage intentionally.
Self-compassion begins with treating ourselves like our own best friend.
I help homeschool mamas shed what's not working in their homeschool & life, so they can show up authentically, purposefully, and confidently in their homeschool & life.
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