Human bodies are such interesting things. We're a diverse sort of species. We come in all kinds of shapes and sizes, colours and builds. Some of us are naturally quite furry and some of us are skinless landsharks and all places in between.
The bodies we have are affected by our health and our ancestry. What we eat and how we spend our time will all have their impact. Most cultures have standards for what counts as especially attractive and that's diverse too.
To what degree is our capacity for attraction informed by our cultures? What happens when our desires don't neatly match what we've been told to want? Or when our bodies aren't considered socially acceptable? One obvious case in point here would be the obsession some cultures have with youth being the standard for beauty. We all get older, and fighting that process is pointless - but it does make a lot of money for beauty industries.
For me, attraction doesn't begin with a body. I can find people aesthetically pleasing without feeling any urge at all to follow through on it. If I connect with someone emotionally, then I will find them attractive. I don't have a type exactly, I'm not much affected by gender or gender presentation. I tend to go for high cheekbones, but that's about it, and it's certainly not a deal breaker.
How someone's voice sounds is a bigger factor in attraction for me, than what they look like. I assume it wouldn't be a dealbreaker but at the same time I've never been attracted to someone I didn't think had a gorgeous speaking voice. I'm also really affected by how people smell, although that's not easy to spot when it's happening. We can unconsciously gather a lot of information about each other from smells, so for me it's only been when people's smells have changed that it's registered with me.
I'm very much attracted to creativity, imagination and unusual minds. I like interacting with people who think deeply, and who are interested in things, and excited about things. What exactly they are into turns out to be less important. I like spending time with people who have passions and wild enthusiasms.
Who we find appealing informs so many aspects of our lives. It's not just about romance and sexual partners. It's there in how we pick our friends and our social spaces. It can inform who we vote for and who we hire. There's a lot of privilege that comes with conforming to certain kinds of beauty standards and lots of scope for abuse, shaming, disrespect and disadvantage the less you conform to those standards.
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